Thanks to Johnny for the pointer to Rob;s piece on anger Why are so many people SO ANGRY!
But I had an aha the other day as I was listening to a program about reconciliation in Rwanda. The big point is that I picked up is that this anger is NOT stupid. It is rooted in something that is very real for those that feel it. The piece made the point that I was being stupid by thinking others as stupid and that I would do better to have some compassion and think more about WHY they were so angry.
So why the anger?
I've had my rages, no doubt I will have more in the future. Big ones, ones that scare my dogs and my wife and me as well. They all of them, without exception, have the same cause.
My recognition that the consequences that I have just experienced are my own fault. Something goes worng and I can see that it is because of my own laziness, incompetence, ignorance, arrogance, carelessness, greed or some other quality that I find repellent. They are all summed up by a word that Rob uses that is exactly on the money; "stupid".
Stupid is doing something that, with a little thought, a modicum of intelligence, a split second of extra care would have been avoided and yet failing to give that and suffering a bad consequence. Stupid is the recognition that I am responsible for the outcome when there was no need for it.
Having to recognise my own stupidity is the biggest driver of all. For me it is also cumulative. I can cope with a couple of stupids per day, but when I get to the 5th or 6th I am ready to blow. The bigger the stupidity, the harder it is to express and the bigger the blow when it comes.
Interestingly, I almost never get angry at others for their actions, I am the only one that I hold to these standards. There's a piont at which "I should have known better and I failed", and that's where it bites.
The kid who skyved off school and ended up in a crap job for little money and no respect feels it, the middle manager who slides through the company working the ladder but not being noticed then gets fired because they create no value fells it, the retiree who believes the smart young man when he says he can do so much better with their money than they can then loses it all feel it, the consumer who doesn't read the fine print and gets ripped off by the clever but corrupt company feels it.
I am having many fewer moments of rage as I get more used to the idea I am not important enough that I shouldn't have to deal with these petty problems, that I have things to do and I have the time to do them.
I built a new platform for my garden shed and discovered after I assembled it that it was 10cm too long in one direction. In the past I would never have attempted it except as a distraction from my more important work. Such a discovery would have driven me off the edge. But this time I was pleased. First because I had detected the error in time, second that I had screwed the pieces together so all I had to do was unscrew them, cut off the bits that were too long and screw them back together.
It happens all the time but it causes no anger because getting it right is what I am here to do now.
Now consider the bigger scale. Back in 2004 or so I had a conversation with a professor at the University of Sydney, smart guy, runs a world-renown programme in his field. He proudly told me that whenever he had a raise, say $100 a week, he looked at how big a debt he could service with that cash, borrowed it and invested it in the share market.
I told said professor in no uncertain terms that his strategy was stupid and dangerous compared with ours. While everyone else was leveraging their real estate we were paying off our mortgage, while everyone else was "investing" in such hare-brained schemes we were saving. We experienced a good deal of mild contempt for "not getting it".
Right now I know who is likely to be in the better position. It is axiomatic that the greatest number of people pile into the bubble just as it bursts. As we have watched a succession of bubbles burst we can be sure that many millions of us are staring massive financial failure in the face.
And at the base of that failure there is one simple truth. We had the choice. Our choice was not to play, anyone else could have chosen not to play as well. A basic understanding of maths and money and the intelligence to act on that could have protected people from their own greed for status and fear of its loss.
As that certainty grows ever clearer and people discover that they can't do anything to mitigate it, they will experience their own stupidity and that will drive them to rage.
That is what we are going to have to deal with in the next decade. My partial solution would be to bankrupt the banks, allow everyone who has an unsustainable mortgage to write it off and never, ever, be allowed to borrow another cent again in their lives.
There would be an outcry from savers who would lose their savings and people who expected to live off their 'investments" but since they will lose all that anyway, they will in fact be no worse off than they are going to be anyway and they will live in a place with a lot less fear, a lot less desperation and a great deal less rage.
That would be worth it. Of course it would also require intelligent, informed, open public discourse, and an acknowledgement at the highest levels of the reality we face and its causes.
So it wont ever happen.
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